looking for advice

[xXxcaoticxXx]

i am currently in a rear detachment company.. i was redeploid from the iraqi theater do to extream family issues.i do not understand the rear detachment guidline.there theory is if we cant deploy you we will find any means nesssary to kick you out be it honroable med board chapter or dishonerable.i am here for a vailid reason and i am not doing anything to hinder them.i am on funeral detail and i am a single father of a 11 month old daughter..i currently am in a divorce for(tipical army wife drama).diggest isue is i se them taking mroe time trying to hinder my fellow soldiers and myself than trying to help us.there are people lik me who would lets face it rather be in iraq living soldier life then be stuck ere dealing with dramatic bs because our spouces souldnt keep it together(or there legs for that matter).there has to be some kind of middle ground. i have 8 years in may have deployed befor without any issues and am now dealing wth utter hell.they would rather dig up rearded things in my records wich im sure has taken them months to find and try to go for bs court marshals than spend half the efort it took them to dothat to help me finalize this situation and move forward in my life and my carrear as a soldier... any advice on were to go with this.my doc is at the point of just md boarding me because i cant take anymore mentaly from them.....i really dont want to get out i didnt ask for a situation like this but im stuck in it why is it they think its there goal to kick everyone out of the army.. because honestly there back here for some reason to so why are they finding it as a command directive to eliminate every soldier by any means nessesary?

[Ground_PounderNCO]

Use the tools available to every soldier...your Chain of Command. If your CoC is un-responsive, then speak to your Inspector General. If your issues are valid, the IG's office will work to resolve them.

And please, for the love of God, do us all a favor and at least try to spell your words correctly. Some proper punctuation wouldn't hurt either. I mention this because reading a statement filled with misspelled words and run-on, improperly punctuated sentences, is a chore for the reader at best. At worst, poor structure and grammer could cause the reader to question your intelligence and perhaps your overall value to the unit or the Army.

Please, please, please make sure you have someone you trust proof-read EVERYTHING you put into writing, when dealing with official correspondence.

[MCGYVER]

Give your parents or grandparents full power of attorney, have them made legal guardians of your kid. Get back to your duty.

[xXxcaoticxXx]

only prob with power of attorney is spouce isnt divorced from me can show up any time pick her up and run back to alaska..right now im on even playing feild in texs. alaska is a one sided state.

[FatCat40]

That was very hard to read. I have one suggestion for you. English Composition class!!! To be honest, my first thought after struggling through that was that if after eight years in you're still writing at this level then good riddance.

[SSGArtillery]

It's "spouse", not spouce.. its "Divorce", not divorse... listen, like the guy above said, if you wan't to be taken serious right now you gotta get with the program and hit spellcheck.
Type what you wan't to say in microsoft word then spell check. copy n paste onto a thread and you will be taken more serious. 8 years in the Army you could of least had some sort of training in writing, unless you don't type counselings for your Soldiers.

The Army is not the place to be on non-deployable status, we've got too much wasted space as it is. You need to get with a relative or something and get them to help you out. If I had a group of people and needed them out doing their jobs I would take all of them and leave no one in the rear. You can't even deploy so you are no use to the unit to be brutally honest. Although with this said you could go to Korea, or TRADOC and continue to serve without deployments and not worry about time away from your family, not my type of people over there cus they're a bunch of cowards but that's for another thread.

Good luck, try to get your stuff together because the Army, regardless of who is in charge, will try to get rid of you the first sign of weakness...

[kenny10]

my god how did you get past the 1st grade?

[mel44]

Alright all the grammar police cool it, this dude has enough to worry about right now without going back to school. Caotic, you really gotta take the advice and use spell check when presenting an official document.

I don't have a full understanding of your situation but from your post I gathered your wife abandoned your 11 month old so you were brought home to rear D. It must have been serious for them to send you home so now you have some really hard decisions to make. Texas law will allow even a bad parent to take possession of a child from an extended family member such as a grandparent unless a court order has been issued to prevent them from possession of the child. Child custody laws here are still in the dark ages to some extent and the parent that is in possession finds favor from the court, so I get why your unable to leave your child with family until the court battle is over. The problem is being a single parent of an infant and a soldier is difficult, especially if you have a difficult and/or dangerous spouse, simply because your not available to deal with garbage that comes with a separation and divorce.

You will have to take some responsibility for your relationship. As my daddy always says "if you marry and idiot and reproduce with them, your child has at least one idiot for a parent". You had a child with her and your responsibility to that child may cost you your career. Get you butt focused on making a safe and nurturing environment for you baby and focus on your job second. If your job withstands the pressure the divorce puts on it then wonderful, if it doesn't then cut your loses and start over.

The bottom line is your child is forever and what happens now dictates the rest of her life. Make good choices, do the best you can, and pray for direction. I admire your desire to take on this task, some men would let their child go into a bad environment or unsafe living to preserve their career. Good Job!

[OEFOIFCOMBATVET]

i am currently in a rear detachment company.. i was redeploid from the iraqi theater do to extream family issues.i do not understand the rear detachment guidline.there theory is if we cant deploy you we will find any means nesssary to kick you out be it honroable med board chapter or dishonerable.i am here for a vailid reason and i am not doing anything to hinder them.i am on funeral detail and i am a single father of a 11 month old daughter..i currently am in a divorce for(tipical army wife drama).diggest isue is i se them taking mroe time trying to hinder my fellow soldiers and myself than trying to help us.there are people lik me who would lets face it rather be in iraq living soldier life then be stuck ere dealing with dramatic bs because our spouces souldnt keep it together(or there legs for that matter).there has to be some kind of middle ground. i have 8 years in may have deployed befor without any issues and am now dealing wth utter hell.they would rather dig up rearded things in my records wich im sure has taken them months to find and try to go for bs court marshals than spend half the efort it took them to dothat to help me finalize this situation and move forward in my life and my carrear as a soldier... any advice on were to go with this.my doc is at the point of just md boarding me because i cant take anymore mentaly from them.....i really dont want to get out i didnt ask for a situation like this but im stuck in it why is it they think its there goal to kick everyone out of the army.. because honestly there back here for some reason to so why are they finding it as a command directive to eliminate every soldier by any means nessesary?

Well you been in for 8 years so you know the system by now. If you are still a specialist perhaps the Army letting you go might be the best thing.

Your leadership took care of you by re-deploying you early to take care of family matters. If you have an issue; take it up with the IG (even spouses use it) to ensure that your command is following and adhering to regulation. IG just informs command; they cannot compel as I learned.

But you are not a boot private no more. You have to take responsibility for your actions and to CYA.